Avoiding Autism: What to do when you’re pregnant.

We need to know how to help our autistic children.  Just as important is to avoid it in the first place.  Our future depends on our children and we cannot survive if we continue to allow our children to be so severely affected.

How can we avoid something if we don’t know what is causing it?  We ask the question, “What causes autism?”

It’s a loaded topic.  Filled with politics on all sides.

I hear the debate.  Over diagnosis, vaccines, environment, viruses, Lyme, strep, antibiotics, heavy metals or of course my favorite, evolution.  The theories are never-ending.

The more potential for profit, the more skewed the results of the research.

Our children are being lost in the debate.  The longer this discussion lasts, the more time we take to debate the issue, the more children fade.  Time is of the essence here and we as parents are the first defense our children have against this debilitating event.

We alone are the only wall to shield the next generation from imminent disaster.  We are alone to sort out the best thing to do. We are confused.  Frankly, nobody knows what causes autism.

The players?

  • Genetics: meaning there isn’t much we can do about it right?  Our kids are just born this way, or is something affecting the genes?  If so what?
  • Over diagnosis:  You won’t see many parents of autistic children accepting this one.  Politics might sell it to people who do not know Autism, but the rest of us aren’t buying what they are selling.
  • Vaccines:  Probably a contributor, but if it alone were the cause then we would not have unvaccinated Autistic biomed responders ( like my son).
  • Environment:  while our environment is terribly toxic there are certainly times in our history when the environment was easily as toxic (especially around the middle of the industrial age).

There are more, but I will skip to the point since I am not likely to name them all anyway.  I see desperate parents regularly asking how to avoid autism?

My Opinion:

Autism is iatrogenic.  Meaning: caused by doctors.  Not as individuals necessarily, but certainly as part of the larger system.  I am sure people are tired of hearing rantings over big pharma or discussions on the latest trend of diagnosing people with their symptoms (like my cousin, who took her dd to the doctor after she fainted for no clear reason, only to leave the office with a diagnosis of syncope…?).   I could likely write 20 blog entries complaining about our medical system, lol, but you all know me.  I am too much of a fixer to waste that much time on complaining (I reserve most of my ranting for my lovely family).

So what is the solution?

If your pregnant or thinking of getting pregnant I have a few tips I would recommend.

  1. Do not mess with detoxification unless you have about 18 months afterward.
  2. Get back to basics.  Eat good food not pesticide laden, GMO pseudofood.  Real food the way our grandmothers and our great-grandmothers used to cook.  Boil thee bones to make thy soup and other such nutrient dense real food techniques. Avoid artificial ick and additives, MSG, fake sugars, trans fats and hydrogenated oils, high fructose corn syrup, etc…
  3. Take a decent multi-vitamin to make up for what is lacking in our food.
  4. Fish oil is a must when pregnant: High quality fish oil higher in DHA than EPA (1500 mg DHA / 750 mg EPA is good)
  5. Control the toxic load as much as possible.  Don’t choose now to remodel your house.  Don’t use CFLs.  Stay clear of chlorine bleach, and other chemicals, fluoride, fabric softeners, aluminum and non stick cookware, etc…
  6. Above all stay away from Doctors unless it is absolutely necessary.  DO NOT Vaccinate!  DO NOT take Rx Meds!

Doctors treat disease they do not bestow health.  Do not use medication that is my motto. Doctors can run tests, check your health, and clue you in to a possible disease process. They are however, most beneficial when you are well-informed and do your homework.  and if you find a doctor who is annoyed by your desire to be part of the process, RUN!!!

We use vitamins and herbs at the first sign of illness and we seldom need to go to the doc.  I think the old adage, “An apple a day to keep the doctor away,” was right in one regard.

Keeping the doctor away is of utmost benefit to your health!

Looking for Autism: the saga continues

We are back in school this year as a first grader and I gave the teacher a couple of weeks to settle in before I went in to chat with her.  Since we aren’t homeschooling any more I really need this feedback from someone who deals with him all day long.  Not to mention she sees him with all his other peers where I would expect his deficits to stand out more.

So I asked her how she felt he was doing?  She just looked at me with a puzzled expression and said he is doing great.

ME:  “Ok, so what I mean is on a scale of 1-10 how do you think he is doing socially?”

TEACHER: “He is doing very well he plays with the other kids and enjoys recess and when he chooses to so an activity on his own like read a book he is fine if another student joins him and he returns to the group just like any other student would.”

(Obviously she is not understanding I want to know about his deficits, so I try again)

ME:  “That is great.  But if you had to assign a number to the kids.  and 1 is say this child doesn’t belong in a regular classroom and 10 is perfectly neuro-typical indistinguishable from his peers., and fits in the class exactly as he should  Where would my son fit?”

TEACHER:  “Well, I would say he is maybe a little more mature than the other children in the classroom.  We will know more after they finish the testing on Tuesday, but they might talk to about the possibility of moving him up a grade.”

(Now I am the one with the puzzled look on my face)

ME:  “Well, we did hold him back a year to give him the best chance at catching up socially.”

(but I am thick headed and I came here for a deficit darn it and I am determined to get one)

ME AGAIN:  “I know my son has a little bit of an odd word choice and some precocious language.  I am not really looking for something I need to change, but just something to watch to see how he is progressing.  Can you come up with any kind of behavior or thing that he does that kind of makes him stand out from the other kids a bit.  Something that perhaps could be watched and measured for progress?”

TEACHER:  “Well, I don’t know, I wouldn’t exactly call it a deficit.  In fact it is endearing, but when he gets very happy and excited he kind of jumps up in his chair and squeals with joy.  It is just a moment and it makes the rest of the class happy and laugh and it is contagious.  I really wouldn’t want to see it go away, but is that what you are looking for?”

We finished our conversation with some small talk and she said she would watch him a little closer and if she happened to notice anything she’d make a note of it for me.  I thanked her and assured her that she needn’t go out of her way, but I would be very appreciative of any feedback she had good or bad.

So the question remains.  Where oh where did this elusive Autism gene go?  I mean my son didn’t regress he was born Autistic.  For all intents and purposes he still should be.  Could he really have been cured of Autism.  I mean sure, we have always hoped.  We did biomed and chelated (still chelate) in the hopes that it would get rid of the Autism.  But did I ever really believe it?

No, I am still waiting for it to leap out and bite us in the butt.

I think I have a tiny glimpse into the world of PTSD.  I am still holding my breath and I am still watching and analyzing, and picking up on every possible deficit.  I do this silently to myself (I would not do it in front of my child) because I can’t really imagine that we may see a day without supplements and weekly rounds.

I been eating, drinking, sleeping , and dreaming Autism for so many years.  It is hard to imagine a life without it.  and I have been secretly afraid to actually think it would ever really be gone.

Maybe I can actually let myself hope?

 

Autism Idioism: “Some kids just grow out of it.”

Subject: Quinn, a boy with autism, and the lin...

Yes I did just make up a word.  Guilty.

But what would you call a commonly expressed statement made about Autism as if it is fact when it is purely fiction and often rude to boot?

Idiom: A form of expression natural to a language, person, or group of people

Ism: A distinctive practice, system, or philosophy, typically a political ideology.

Idiot: A stupid person.

I am sure you all have a host of unintelligible statements people have made about your child or Autism in general.  I am usually pretty patient with the ignorance but sometimes it just crosses the line.

I was talking to a parent about my sons amazing progress with chelation.  I was explaining that regardless of the politics and double blind peer-reviewed studies doctors need in order to “treat” our children, we as parents can decide if something is helpful based on observation.  That based on the amazing benefits we have seen with chelation it is quite apparent that he had heavy metal poisoning.

That is when another parent felt the need to join the conversation just to tell us about her friend’s child who just grew out if his Autism.  She said that is probably what was happening to my son.  Unbelievable.  What is even more unbelievable is that I have actually had two unrelated people at two separate times make this same suggestion, lol.

Another Autism idioism we hear all the time is that the quiet, quirky kid we sat next to in school was probably Autistic, but they weren’t as good at diagnosing it back then.  (It was actually my son’s pediatrician who said this to me).  One problem with that theory, I do not recall that quirky kid ever flipping out, screaming, throwing things, then hitting, scratching, and biting any teacher who tired to contain him just because someone moved his eraser.  Thanks to chelation we no longer see these total meltdowns, but they were so much a part of our daily lives I can not imagine someone suggesting my son could have ever gone undiagnosed.  No, that quirky kid did not look anything like my son.

Do any of you have Autism Idioisms you’d like to share?